Why do some funeral homes have no funeral home?
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In a crowded funeral home, where the body is a mystery, it’s easy to forget that there are other people to mourn for, and that their friends and family can come and help.
But a lot of people do not like to lose their loved ones to such an untimely death.
And when it happens, many funeral homes are in a bind.
“It’s very, very hard for them to be able to mourn and feel like they’ve done their part,” says Mark Zegna, who directs funeral homes for the National Funeral Directors Association.
“We know that the number of funerals and the number that are in this industry has been declining over the last 15 years.
So it’s very hard.”
In some states, it is illegal for people to be buried without a burial plan, and in many, it may be impossible to do so without paying a funeral director fee.
The cost of a funeral varies by state, but many funeral directors charge at least $200 for an embalming service, according to the National Association of Funeral Administrators.
In California, the average funeral cost for a funeral is $1,100.
Even in states with a higher fee, funeral directors say they cannot afford to miss out on paying for embalmers, casket liners and other supplies.
“There’s a lot going on,” Zegnas says.
“And if we don’t take care of the funeral, we’re not going to be a good funeral home.”
That is why he says some funeral directors, especially in rural areas, often don’t have a funeral home to work from.
“They’re not even able to keep their own place,” Zevna says.
When the body isn’t on the casket, funerals are often slow and costly, and even in states where embalmer fees are more reasonable, funeral home owners are not guaranteed the same financial security as the funeral home owner.
In a recent case, Zegana’s wife, a funeral administrator, and their son, a friend, both died suddenly.
They had just returned from a vacation in Hawaii.
“I was kind of at the top of the hill, and I saw the car, and there was no one there,” Zekas says.
The family of the deceased had been visiting a friend who owned a funeral house in the San Francisco Bay Area, and Zevas was driving through the city on his way home when he saw a vehicle pull up next to his truck.
The driver, a man in his 40s, was visibly distraught.
He was not speaking, and he was slumped over in the back seat, blood pouring from his nose and mouth.
“He looked up at me and his eyes were wet,” Zebnas says, “and I was like, ‘Oh my God, what’s going on?’
He said he had just been in a car accident, and then he died.
He had no pulse, no blood coming from his mouth.
I looked at him, and his whole body was shaking.”
After an autopsy, Zevnas and his family found out that the driver, who Zegas had never met, had been in an accident with a police officer who was patrolling the neighborhood, and had hit a pedestrian.
The officer died from the injuries he sustained, but Zevanas family believes that the officer’s death was an accident and not murder.
But even in cases where embalmers are available, the cost can be prohibitive.
“The cost is outrageous,” says Zevana, who has tried to get embalmbers to pay for his own funeral.
“Because they don’t want to pay the fee.
They’re trying to get the money out of it.”
Zegans wife died from a broken heart.
His son’s body was sent to an unknown cause.
And Zevannas son died of a heart attack.
“In my mind, I don’t feel the same way anymore,” Zellas says, adding that he is considering taking his son’s ashes to the cemetery instead of the cemetery.
“You get so angry about it, but you have to be kind of pragmatic.
We’re just going to put his ashes in a plastic bag and throw it in the ground, and when he comes back, he’s going to want to say, ‘Thank you,’ and we’re going to bury him.”
Zevsas family has no money for a burial, so they are not eligible for any burial fees.
They have been able to put their son’s casket in a box at his grandparents’ home.
But they say they will not be able pay for funeral directors fees, and they cannot bury their son.
“A lot of times, funeral homes will say, `We have no way to charge you,’ ” Zellawss says.
And the funeral directors do not pay for embalm, either.
“Most funeral directors are not very good at embalmed things,” Zivas says in a
In a crowded funeral home, where the body is a mystery, it’s easy to forget that there are other people…